Perhaps nothing leaves such tragedy and heartache in its wake as suicide. As we draw closer to Christmas we’d do well to be reminded that this is the time of year with the greatest number of suicides.
Why would someone take his or her own life? What could possibly be so bad or unbearable that a person would “end it all”? If such a person could be reached in the nick of time, what reasons might they give for giving up?
1. “No one cares if I live or die.”
Everyone needs a place to belong. Everyone needs people who are there for them, will encourage them and accept them. The great line from the “Cheers” TV show theme song was that people wanted to find a place “where everybody knows your name.” While I agree with the sentiment I think there’s a better place to fulfill the desire. May I suggest you look to Jesus and his church? There truly is strength in numbers (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12).
2. “I’m afraid.”
I knew a young man who took his life because he had done some things that were going to have some pretty stiff consequences. Instead of dealing with them, he shot himself. There is no obstacle or circumstance, however unpleasant, that God cannot help us through, with, over or under. “Submit therefore to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you. Draw near to God and he will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners; and purify your hearts, you double-minded” (James 4:7,8)
3. “I don’t know what else to do.”
When I was a kid my dad once told me that the Bible had the answers to the most important questions in life. He was right. Jeremiah said, “I know, O Lord, that a man’s way is not in himself; Nor is it in a man who walks to direct his steps” (Jeremiah 10:23). It’s no wonder that we get lost when we stop following his directions. But as long as you’re this side of the grave, you’re not past the point of no return. Find God’s answer to your problems. If you don’t know how to start, find a mature Christian for some guidance.
There is no problem so great that God cannot help. There is no heart so lonely that God’s love cannot fill. There is no life so lost that God cannot set on the right path. God loves you. He wants to heal your hurts and give you abundant life (John 10:10). “Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you” (1 Peter 5:7).